Dating

I had some one ask me if the gym was a meat market - my normal sense of humor answered

"In the sense of the heavy population of meat heads.....yes"

Apparently the gym is the new club and there are stories of love and lust that have stemmed from curls and thrusts. (rhymes 2pts) I clarified for my associate that yes there are people who go to grab the attention of others. For the most part I am blind to it because I am so focused on attaining my own goals, that I can not be concerned over some one googly eyeing my ass or not.

My policy has always been look but don't touch.

Boys, and men a like - you must learn to be more discreet. It is socially acceptable to glance, it is creepy to stare. Further I assume that you have all passed puberty and it is probably not the first or last time you have seen a female, or a female wearing shorts, or leggings. Get it together.

Ladies, please. Do not get upset when the little boys come undone when you walk in with underwear on. You have ALL of OUR ATTENTION. Mission accomplished. There is one female in particular who spends more time fixing her hair and snapping selfies than she actually spends on the varies machines that she sits on.

She is very pretty yes, body - nearly perfect........hair - freshly flat-ironed, sneakers new - tank - spaghetti strapped and cropped - leggings tight rolled down to emphasis on the V by her hips and the fact that she has no underwear on. Seriously - no drawers, ever. LIKE WHY?! I am not going to lie - she annoys me. Mostly because I USED to have her body when I was a teenager lol and not a mom - but also because she occupies space a gym where people are trying to build bodies like hers that she effortlessly flaunts. ok, Im over it. For now.

Ok, now that we have not established anything in relation to the title of the post - I can substantiate that yes, the gym can be a meat market, a dating source and a place to advertise your ASSets - I had to.

ONLINE DATING, Has EXPLODED. What seemed like a last resort for a person looking for love has become a very popular way for people to meet. It seems like there are sites for all kinds of people looking for all kinds of love(rs) Farmers, Old people, Christians, Catholics, Young people, etc.

How does a person decide when they are ready to start dating after an ended relationship? Is it gauged by how lonely one is? A rebound? How much growth has become since the separation? I think that is entirely up to the individual and what they hope to achieve.

How you go about it can be personal as well. There is no right or wrong way to date, I take that back - I am sure there are some wrong ways to date.

A friend of mine said to me a few months ago - "You should start dating" and I burst out laughing, "No freaking way! I am not ready for that, that's not what this is about anyway" their response was "I'm just saying, do it now - before your too old" I thought about it, part of me agreed - and then the other part of me realized I am having way too much fun being selfish with my time, my bed, my house, my daughter - I do NOT want to disrupt that. Besides I have a lot more to achieve before becoming "someones" again. And not for nothing I don't even know what I want out of a spouse to even begin thinking about someone fitting the mold. pppffft date. yeah right.

What I would like, is conversation, art, museums, laughter, tea, peace......I am ready for that and nothing else.

~daydreamer