Strings.......

People give just enough to keep you interested and not enough to keep you satisfied. Why do we do this?

I was speaking with one of my girlfriends the other day and she was telling me about a prospect that she was interested in. However - they both are in relationships. They met awhile ago and had just really casual interaction, then something switched and they both initiated conversation that was above the normal "friendship-lines"

My advice to her was PUMP THE BRAKES!

Easier said than done I assured her and I respect that. However - they both have stuff they need to settle before they can think about pursuing anything with each other. First off even if their current relationships are ending engaging in an intellectual relationship was in fact a form of cheating.

That may have fallen on deaf ears because she continued to expose herself to this person and then all of a sudden she told me she cut them off. I gave her a high five and a pep talk, she ended her current relationship and is a bit of a puddle to this point and I am sure she is not going to be impressed that I am talking about it in my blog. (sorry babe)

Any who, this cheater cheater pumpkin eater has showed back up in her life and hasn't left their relationship but is EXPLICIT with my girlfriend. I tried to explain to her that if they do it with you they will do it to you.

For what ever reason she is eating everything that comes out of this persons mouth as if she hasn't had a backbone in her ENTIRE life.

I think she enjoys the attention, but realizes that it is really not good for her. They seem to string her along giving hope for something that will never happen and leaving her feeling eager but lonely

But it really makes me think about why we tend to do that. In challenging situations where we might not know which direction to go we want what we want but don't want to do what needs to be done to get it. People claim they need time and or space, but they are violating the trust of their current partners and quite frankly it should make anyone think twice about the character of the individual.

Watching what my peers have gone through - is really what is holding me back from actively dating. I feel like is so hard to be able to trust the other person on the opposite side of the table is authentic - or not hiding a 3 year relationship - or a criminal record, or drug habit. Who the hell wants to date in this twisted ass world we live in.

I guess what I am saying to my queens of the world. Stop messing with jokers. Know what you bring to the table and NEVER be afraid to eat alone.