Hi guys I am sorry I have been away. The fact of the matter is I have had almost nothing nice to say. There has been some unexpected hiccups and challenges.
You are all aware that my daughters father and I had to revisit our support order. After the order was revised I went 2.5 months with 0 support. When I would ask about it - he would claim that it was coming out of his paycheck and that he didnt know why I wasnt recieving it. I let that slide for a few weeks until the bills continued to pile up and there was no additional monies coming in. I had to contact the state myself to only be told that her father was to manually issue payment to me until the new order was active.
With this new information I asked him one last time what was happening with child support. Conveniently he had "just gotten off the phone" with them and he gruffled that he was being treated like a second class citizen from the state.
Mid sentence I cut him off and said simply "what's the plan?"
Well I guess I have to send in a check.
3 weeks later..........a deposit is made, 2 weeks after that support begins - only its about $100 short, each deposit. ::(((eyes roll in the back of my head))):::
Here is my beef, when people decide to have a baby as a unit it is pretty much 50/50......the MOMENT the unit becomes split all of a sudden 15% is like asking for them to severe there own limbs.......WHY?
"I have other kids!"
and
Maybe you forgot that kids cost money and require more than the bare minimum.
The saga continued after my daughter came home with her hair flat ironed - hey babe who did your hair? {{insert kind of ex wifes name}}
Oh you guys slept over there?
No daddy dropped me off yesterday............. - flat lined.-
Did daddy have to work?
no,
Did he have a date with {{insert kind of girl friends name}}
no,
So, why did you sleep there then?
IDK - mommy are you mad?
No - baby I am not mad, I think I am just disappointed - daddy doesn't get a ton of time with you - so I guess it makes me sad to know you spent the night somewhere else.....
Mean while my face is probably on fire. And Of course I have to say some thing to him - I get -
"I will do what I want, stop harassing me - I will take you back to court"
He knows that all you have to do is mention court and I put my tail in my legs because it is literally like drinking bleach for the soul.
After a few days I was actually really upset that I let him get to me - take me back to court - please do! I mean the judge will be so impressed when you complain that I am asking you to spend more time with your daughter. SMH.
annoyed.
